FEAR : Forget Everything And Run, or Face Everything And Rise?
There’s a quote from Zig Zaglar, who was an American author and motivational speaker, that says ‘Fear has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything and Rise. The choice is yours.’ Now Zig was full of all kinds of brilliant motivational quotes, but this one is particularly relevant for those of us that run our own businesses, as fear often plays a huge part in the decisions we make.
We are, essentially, animals, despite all of the differences we see between ourselves and our fellow members of the animal kingdom, and all of the ways that we perceive ourselves to be special. And we are special, our brains are incredibly complex and we haven’t even begun to scratch the surface of how they operate, but, when it comes down to it, our gut reaction in the face of difficult situations is often a very animalistic one, that of ‘fight or flight’. Our inner caveman makes a split second gut decision when they find themselves threatened, to either face up to the danger head on or to run away as fast as possible.
The problems that we face in our day to day lives whilst running a business normally aren’t quite as dramatic as those that our cavemen ancestors would’ve come up against. Rather than confrontations with saber-tooth tigers, we’re probably dealing with tricky customers (although on occasion, let’s face it, the lines between the two can seem somewhat blurred!), or decisions that shouldn’t really be that difficult, like whether to start a new class, change your venue, change your times. But these decisions can get blown out of proportion and you can end up procrastinating over them for months, running away from them when you should be turning round and facing facts.
Well, luckily, the most important part of overcoming fear is recognising that it exists in the first place. This fear of taking steps forward is often a fear of success, but you also need to put your finger on exactly why it is that you’re scared of it before you can face it and rise above it. It might be that…
You’re actually quite happy living in obscurity because you’d rather not have large amounts of people judging all the content you put out online, thank you very much. Also, what if everyone loves you for a while, and then it all goes away.
If you were to make a change to the size of your classes, or launch a whole new class, you’re worried that everyone will think you’re crazy and air their views publicly.
You know you’re fully capable of doing something, but you’re worried you’ll crack when it comes down to it. You’re convinced you’re an imposter, and success is all just some kind of act.
You’re convinced that success will actually just involve far more time doing admin and marketing and far less time giving actual classes or just being with your kids.
Everything’s alright. You’re okay. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Sounds like an awful lot of effort to me. This is a mix of fear of not understanding new things and a lack of motivation to try.
Now, imagine a world in which none of these things bothered you, and you didn’t feel the need to procrastinate. What is the first thing you would do if you were certain you couldn’t fail? Head on over to the Instructor-only Facebook group and share.